HEZEKIAH’S SONG (ISAIAH 38)

I thought that in the prime of lifehezekiah's song
I was going to the world of the dead,
Never to live out my life.
I thought that in this world of the living
I would never again see the Lord
Or any living person.
My life was cut off and ended,
Like a tent that is taken down,
Like cloth that is cut from a loom.
I thought that God was ending my life.
All night I cried out with pain,
As if a lion were breaking my bones.
I thought that God was ending my life.
My voice was thin and weak,
And I moaned like a dove.
My eyes grew tired from looking to heaven.
Lord, rescue me from all this trouble.
What can I say? The Lord has done this.
My heart is bitter, and I cannot sleep.

Lord, I will live for you, for you alone;
Heal me and let me live.
My bitterness will turn into peace.
You save my life from all danger;
You forgive all my sins.
No one in the world of the dead can praise you;
The dead cannot trust in your faithfulness.
It is the living who praise you,
As I praise you now.
Parents tell their children how faithful you are.
Lord, you have healed me.
We will play harps and sing your praise,
Sing praise in your Temple as long as we live.

4 Things My Mother Taught Me

Originally posted on Stories without Border:

I haven’t seen my beloved mother in almost four years as we are thousands of mile away from each other.. All I hear is her sonorous tender voice over the telephone inquiring as to our well-being.

Whenever I say that I miss my home country, I actually mean that I miss my dear mother; she is one in a million and the best mother that any daughter or son will be proud of

What value and good manners do I know which I didn’t learn from my mother?

  1. She taught me humility: I am the second to the last of my mother’s children and I can confidently say that my mother is down to earth. I have never heard her brag about her material acquisition to anyone, even among other women.

Her modest appearance and countenance lends credence to this very fact.

  1. Obedience: Coming from a typical African…

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Lola Komolafe’s Yesterday Left Us With Today Story Review

cutest3_edit_editAfter reading Lola Komolafe’s Yesterday Left Us with Today, I got a mixed feeling. I felt sorry for the ladies, who are in disastrous relationships, who feel they have nowhere else to go, I felt disgust for parents who for one circumstance of the other leave their daughters in the hands of men who to them would cater for their daughters and also lighten the burden and of cause, how can I forget, the most irritating character to me in the story called “John” who like many men feel they own most women they are involved with, who render themselves as wives before marriage to men or even husbands who feel they have the right to use women as boxing mates.

Don’t conclude at this point that you know the story based on my feeling because the story is awesome. It is a story of knowledge and suspicion and one I recommend many mothers to purchase for their daughters as unknown to many mothers, daughters keep things bottled up. You do not have to be a scolding mother to have a daughter that do not tell you things, don’t pock nose, just understand them and be smart in your conversations with them.

 Yesterday Let Us with Today is a tale of two friends (Shalewa and Felicia) who met at a boarding school in Nigeria; they studied together, played together and graduated together. Like many friends they kept in touch but got separated by Shalewa’s scholarship to study in London. Letters kept them together as real friends but both friends who resided in two different countries had a change of perception to life and to men.…. Take note at this point, that this story was set in the time when letters and not instant messages were the best means of communication.  

As the story develops, we discover that the writer had these two ladies sharing personal stories ladies would rather share with their mothers. We read about them making each other feel like they were both going through their issues together, leaving their guardians behind without asking for advice from them- just as many teenagers and youths do. Lola Komolafe made them so close that Felicia began to tell Shalewa of the man in her life, who to her was all she would ever need and one she could not live without. Sadly this is where the real tale begins, because this fellow “John” who had come into Felicia’s life as an angel became the Mike Tyson who used her as a punching bag.

The story which includes a lot more than I can tell you, opens up a thought in my mind- as to if many ladies- married and unmarried stay in relationships/marriages which is obvious to everyone (observers and family members), that some things should never be condoned by those they are in a relationship with.

I rattled as to what the society considered as domestic Violence? A larger theme of this story which is used by the author to depict the ideas those in such situations undergo, one which Felicia believes is given to her out of love. A theme which one can observe, affects the victim physically and psychologically.

The bottom line is that mothers are not only involved in parenting anymore, the environment and friends play a big role in today’s child rearing. As a mother, you can do no wrong if you try your best but if all you do is think your daughter is old enough to cater for herself, then you may as well help her get out of the issues she will bring home to you after all wrong has been done.

Thanks to Lola Komolafe for an insightful story that reflects the society, home and abroad, one which I believe will save a lady from her next mistake.

To purchase this story, visit this link (http://www.amazon.co.uk/Yesterday-Left-Today-Lola-Komolafe-ebook/dp/B00E5JK0B6/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1408818956&sr=8-1&keywords=yesterday+left+us+with+today

Lola Komolafe Yesterday Left us with today

10 Things Your Daughter Should Know by the Time She Is 10 By Laura Usky

facebook-20140408-155923 (1)1. How adored she is. No matter what you disagree on and even though sometimes you may yell, she should know she is the center of your universe — always.

2. How to cook. She should be able to prepare small snacks such as eggs, pasta, toast, sandwiches etc. My daughter loves to cook and letting them experiment enforces this life skill.

3. Body changes are coming and what to expect. She needs to know that along with these hormonal changes will come some emotional changes as well. I have bought my daughter a great book by American Girl called The Care and Keeping of You that breaks down the physical and emotional changes in a very easy to understand way. I highly recommend it or a book like it to assist in explaining all that is going to happen to their bodies in the next few years.

4. The harm of drugs. Unfortunately, no matter where you live, drugs are a threat to your child and it starts as early as 10 in some cases. Explain to them in no uncertain terms that no drugs are safe to try even once. Make them understand the tragedy that results in the use of drugs and how dangerous and illegal they are. I have made it clear to my daughter that friends will try to convince you to experiment and that she has to be strong enough to walk away, even if it makes her “uncool” to them. I have also let her know that when she gets older and is out and ever feels a situation is becoming unsafe or making her uncomfortable to call a parent to come get her no matter what.

5. At this age, it’s important for them to know something about the facts of life. I know it’s a tough convo to have, but you surely don’t want them getting their info on the playground at school. I don’t think they need every detail, but a small chat will help them feel more mature about body functions and will prevent crude talk about the subject that they may hear from other kids.

6. They should be aware how there are people all over the world and even in their own community who may not be as fortunate as they are. They should know that helping someone in need is a gratifying feeling and that the help they give may be the boost that person needs to turn their day around. Take them to a local animal shelter or a senior center and let them spend some time volunteering They will feel so good when they are done and it’s a life long habit of helping everyone should practice.

7. Money doesn’t grow on trees. I admit I’m definitely a shopaholic, but I try hard to make it clear to my daughter that nothing comes for free. I worked since I was 15 years old and that gave me the opportunity to shop and travel. She is aware that no work equals no money equals no fun. When she gets money for birthdays and holidays, her father has taught her to split it up into three funds: one to spend, one for emergencies and one for long-term goals such as college. She keeps three separate banks so as not to confuse her funds. It’s a good habit for them to get into and will keep them on track later in life.

8. Appearance is important. She should know that personal grooming and appropriate clothing for different events are something that will be necessary throughout her life.

9. Everyone won’t always be nice. My daughter is going into fifth grade and it’s the time that all the nasty girl drama starts. It was already peeking its head a little in fourth grade, but I anticipate the next two years is when they really get catty. I have talked to her about what girls get snippy about and how to stay out of the drama. You have to stay true to your close friends no matter what, and don’t be involved in groups that talk about other girls because eventually, they will talk about you, too. I’ve tried to teach her to be confident enough to hold her own, but aware of trouble makers and not afraid to report issues that seem dangerous, like extreme bullying or threats.

10. Life is not easy. There will be challenges she will face that will seem cruel and impossible. It will take her faith, her family and her perseverance to get through some of the things that life throws at her. It’s important to know life is going to be a series of ups and down and be prepared to deal with both.

Learning these 10 things is a good base with which to begin the tough preteen and teen years. Helping our children maneuver life is our jobs as parents, even if we haven’t quite figured it all out ourselves yet.

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A HUSBAND, NOT A WEDDING

Worship my physic, thick or thinpoetry-husband and marriage
Seek my desire like it’s yours
Watch me from a distance with a smile on your face
Make a meal for me as my hormone gives way into me
Dine with me, wherever it may be, like the meal was made by us
Hold my waist like you can cater to me
Take me to a store and lift the list with me
Stop being the boy that needs mummy to tie his shoe laces
Make yourself the man you want the woman in me for you to become
Be the man that needs me
Be the man that I posses his ribs
Be the man I can play with
Be the man that prays for me and for my prayer to be yea and amen
Consider that other women exist but none like me
Need me like you want me to need you
Tell me your plans be my companion, my confidant regardless of our wedding.

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CONVENIENT LOVE?

convinient loveRegardless of war, famine or hatred; love always exists. It rules mankind; from the birth of a child, to the day of a wedding; to even the day one begins to love someone other than themselves. This love could be sad or happy, it could be mad or awesome, it could come from anyone at anytime and it could be one which could grow out of convenience.

 

This convenience is hardly understood or spoken of, because it still refers to love. Its love that just exists and both partners who sometimes recognize or don’t recognize it as convenient love go on with whatever it is they are satisfied it. Like a lady who says (he says he loves me, why should I doubt him just cos he hit me? He says he loves me, why should I be angry that he did not ask how I want to achieve my dreams), even a man who says (as long as she did not sleep with the man, she is not cheating on me).

 

Convenience love is love that you are okay with. You are okay with his hitting you, you are okay that she does not nag at you like the other lady did, you are okay with the fact that your boyfriend never argues with you, you are okay with your relationship, so you won’t ask if there is more to it. He is okay with you being his number one, because in relation to other girls you see around him, you are the only one who would love him when he can’t take you out on a date. You already love him no matter what, so he is okay with you not asking questions that piss him off and you are okay not offending him. He works hard and he buys you gifts, you both hardly see because he works and when you do all he does is ask for sex or takes you shopping and to you that is love, because it is okay for him to work, buy you a gift and satisfy you sexually.

It is convenient for you to be in a marriage where you are being bitten or side tracked because you have children, and those children need a father who would not only be a man but also a financial provider. It is convenient for you because your boyfriend walks down the road and speak of a woman’s buttocks or boobs because it is okay for him to be himself and that isn’t disrespect for you as no one of them shares the same bed with you two and like the saying goes “he is a man”. It is convenient for him to make long distant calls and call you his love or sweetheart and also call all his female friends sweetheart and special people because if you get jealous, you are insecure- a situation which no lady or man should be in, because no relationship should ever make you insecure(a topic for another day).

 

A convenient relationship makes everything OK but does move you forward. It is convenient for the relationship to go on for years, but not convenient for you to meet his parents or for him to put a ring on it. It is convenient for you to say I have a boyfriend/girlfriend, but it is not convenient for you to make anyone angry with the truth, it is convenient for people to be seen as a perfect couple but it is not convenient to have real communication- everything is just okay, no sacrifice, nothing.

 

Don’t get it wrong, relationships have issues, even the ones that appear perfect but sometimes people are in a relationship because it is convenient for them- he will beat you because you will come back (please purchase Lola Komolafe’s Decision which would help you understand the mess you are in called a relationship (http://www.aprillaugh.com/5953 ).It is convenient for you not to be more than what they want you to be, which sadly makes you think low of yourself.

 

Dear people, love is not suppose to hurt, you are not suppose to be okay with what you never intend to be. Nothing should make you okay with average in life, nothing should make you okay with not enjoying life. You have just one life- you should not be in a relationship where you are intimidated to speak out when you want.

JUST CALL ME by Guy L. Lotgering

Please do not be frightened,fear of love
there’s nothing for you to fear.
I am a simple emotion,
as natural as the air.
Do not close your windows.
do not shut your doors.
I penetrate all barriers.
I penetrate the soul.
I never ask for permission.
I do whatever I like.
I’m sorry for my rudeness,
It is pointless to fight.
Sometimes I cause you pain,
but that is not my mission.
Mostly I cause joy,
I even help make passion.
I’ve been known to cause confusion,
and my timing can be poor.
You cannot understand me,
I take complete control.
There is no place to run,
there is no where to hide.
You might as well face it,
with me by your side.
I’m the greatest thing on earth,
nothing else even comes close.
You can search for other emotions,
but it’s me that people want most.
No, I cannot be purchased,
I can’t be traded or sold.
I am as free as the sunshine,
to both the young and the old.
So if I come knocking on your heart,
or try to penetrate your brain.
Please don’t attempt to fight me,
your fight will end in vain.
Oh, I have many names.
My body’s the shape of a dove,
If I ever come calling on you,
You can just call me Love.